What is Self-Image
What is self-image?
Self-Image Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence
The image of self or “how we see ourselves” refers, as already understood, to how we perceive our own physical, emotional, cognitive, social and spiritual characteristics.
How we perceive ourselves depends on the degree of self-esteem (self-esteem, self-respect, self-acceptance) we have. Thus, if we accept ourselves, if we value ourselves for what we do well :
- It contributes to self-respect and self-confidence . If we accept that we have weaknesses without constantly criticizing them .
- This is the basis of self-tolerance and , by default, compared to others . We can live comfortably from an emotional point of view.
- It must be understood that it is always good to have a balance between self-esteem and self-criticism, neither of the two extremes being effective.
The one who praises too much , in the end, persevered or even abandoned by the others . And the one who exaggerates self-criticism causes others feelings of pity, guilt, or a feeling of superiority, attracting other critics. Keeping as much as possible the balance between an exaggerated self-praise and an exaggerated self-criticism we can contribute to our soul hygiene.
How do we know if the self-image is good or not?
It is very simple. We all have what : called the “inner voice”. If this inner voice tends towards a pessimistic, negative and self-critical discourse with ambitions not fulfilled to perfection. It is clear that the self-image of the respective person is negative.
Why is self-image important?
The self-image influences our behaviors. When you have a good self-image you can meet your goals because, a good self-image gives you the enthusiasm. Energy and determination needed to do so and the obstacles are perceived as challenges . That must be overcome in order to reach the goals. A good self-image makes you relate harmoniously with others, by reaching the goals you can have professional performance, social success etc.
A negative self-image causes you to lower your motivation. Or even annihilate it by lacking confidence in your own strengths (“what is the point of trying anyway I won’t succeed”, “it’s hard”, “I’m not able” etc.) . Further, to avoidance behaviors (“I do not go to the interview because I am not good enough, so there is no point …”).
Note that a negative self-image is able to create a vicious circle from which the person is difficult to get out: he does not do certain things because he does not believe in the state and after giving up doing those things he self-blame and criticize himself. even stronger, thus reinforcing their negative beliefs about themselves and nurturing negative inner dialogue.
In conclusion: when you give yourself enough value you reach your goals more easily because of self-confidence, in your own forces it makes you mobilize exactly the resources you need to overcome obstacles and go in the desired direction; when you do not give yourself enough value you negotiate less, communicate harder, act with more fear or avoid acting and “put your own sticks on wheels”. When you do not value yourself, you annihilate the resources you would need to do something.
The self-image contributes to the assessment of reality
The difference is that the one with the good self-image will have the opportunity to prove whether or not he can, developing realistic beliefs about himself through a correct perception of abilities but also weaknesses. The one with the negative self-image will only have the opportunity to close in the vicious circle described above, thus reinforcing his negative beliefs.